Lacey Couple & Family Therapy Services, PLLC

Betsy L. Hicks, MA, LMFT

Couples Therapy

Working with couples is my passion. Reasons couples seek counseling vary but include challenges they are experiencing within their relationship such as communication, constant arguments, anger, jealousy, parenting, step-parenting, life transitions, infidelity, money/finances, blended family, illness, addictions, in-law struggles, gender roles, intimacy issues and many more. My goal is to help couples improve their communication, feel heard and understood by their partner, be able to express their desires and needs in a safe and effective way, and discover who they are as a couple. Furthermore, we will look at the relationship patterns and cycles you may be struggling with and find more productive ways that work for you as a couple. We will discover and enhance the areas of strength in your relationship, and uncover the deeper, hidden emotional needs that you each bring to your relationship, so that stronger connections can be made.

I work with couples who have been together many years, as well as couples in new relationships. Couples therapy can include those that are living together- or not, married, newly married or about to get married. I work with gay couples, straight couples, couples who are only beginning to notice fractures in their relationships and those who been distressed for many years. I also help couples who, for whatever reason, or thinking about or have decided to end their relationship. If you have any further questions about my work with couples please call me at 360.588.2181 or contact me.

Gottman Seven Principles Educator
Couples Counseling

Gottman Seven Principles Program Educator

Phone 360.588.2181

Favorite Quotes

"A man is but a product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes."

Mahtma Gandhi
"Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny."

Unknown
"Celebrate what you want to see more of."

Tom Peters
"Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege.
Use it. Dwell in the possibility."

Oprah Winfrey
"Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve."

Napoleon Hill
The most astonishing thing about miracles is that they happen.

Gilbert Chesterton
"Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass…
It's about learning to dance in the rain."

Vivian Greene
"You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are."

Yogi Bhanjan
"Becoming acquainted with yourself is a price well worth paying for the love that will really address your needs."

Daphne Rose Kingma
"My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.

Shakti Gawain
"The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself."

Steve Maraboli
"To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections."

Sandra Bierig
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."

Buddah
"It is never too late to be what you might have been."

George Eliot
"Growth begins when we start to accept our own weakness."

Jean Vanier
"In order for tomorrow to change, you must do something today. "

Phillip Gee
"Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings."

Miles Franklin
"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new."

Socrates
"If you persistently seek validation from others, you will inadvertently invalidate your own self-worth."

Dondinsky
"If you don't build your dream someone else will hire you to build theirs."

Unknown
"It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not."

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"The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be."

Ralph Waldo Emerson
"If you are not willing to learn, no once can help you. If you are determined to learn, no once can stop you."

wisdomlifequotes.com
"Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about un-becoming everything that isn't really you so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place."

The Center for Mindful Living
"The day I stopped trying to be perfect was the day I found peace. I am enough. You are enough. We all are."

Anna Grace Taylor
“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”

Brené Brown
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”

Brené Brown
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.”

Brené Brown
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.”

Brené Brown
“And suddenly you know… it’s time to start something new, and trust the magic of new beginnings.”

Meister Eckhart
"It always seems impossible until it's done."

Nelson Mandela
"Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough."

Og Mandino
"Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it."

Charles R. Swindoll
"Don't place your mistakes on your head, their weight may crush you. Instead, place them under your feet and use them as a platform to view your horizons."

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